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Russian Women and money
The attitude to money on behalf of FSU women may seem unusual to you.
A lot of western men are afraid of scam and that fear creates serious
problems in communicating with FSU women. If you really like a girl you
shouldn't be afraid to seem too romantic. Send her flowers, candies or
presents to show your affection. Of course words are important, but your
deeds are the best token of your feelings. At the same time we recommend
to avoid sending money directly to ladies if you have never met, even if
the reason seem cogent enough (illness, visa, travel expences, internet
expences, small salary etc).
But don't be shocked if she expects you to pay for her at the
restaurant, theatre or for a taxi. Paying for a woman at a date is a normal
way of courteous behaviour. FSU women expect it from a man and there aren't
any "evil intentions". It's a typical dating rule in FSU. If you don't want
to pay for her at a restaurant or you don't want to pay for your correspondence,
she will never believe that your intentions are serious. If a woman doesn't
allow you to pay for her meal or other expences, most liklely she is not ready
for a serious relationship yet and doesn't want to feel some obligations towards you.
And there is one more thing that you should know about money and FSU women.
FSU women are accustomed to be the binding force in the family and in most families
the women take almost complete responsibility for managing the household (probably
because practically all money are spent for food, clothes and home expences), that's
why Russian husbands give their salary to their wives as the matter of course,
because the family budget is usually common and is managed also by the wife. Let
it not confuse or shock you. It can be different in your family of course.
Unfortunately constant lack of finance and frequent economical crises haven't
taught Russian women to plan a budget. And sometimes when there is money it is often
spent in a hasty way under the influence of moment wishes or urgent needs. That is one
of the most frequent reasons for misunderstanding in international families. You will
have to find a happy medium in order not to let your girlfriend use you without a shame
and at the same time you mustn't seem too greedy or being unable to enjoy life.
For instance don't be surprised when your girlfriend orders a big portion of ice-cream but
doesn't eat it even to a half. Big portion brings more pleasure but the girl can't eat a
lot because she wants to stay in a good shape.
Such girl DOES NOT blow off your money, she just tries to enjoy the time spent with you.
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